First and foremost, we need to be friends. If the chemistry/connection is there everything else will happen in due time, but establishing the friendship comes first. My situation is a little different in that I am married, and my husband is fully aware of what I'm doing. That being said, you have to be willing to meet him as well, and if you became friends too that would be awesome. If the relationship were to become physical, there would be windows of opportunity to fulfill his fantasy of a threesome, but he wouldn't be involved on a regular basis, and he is not bi or curious or anything else. I am 37 and find that the men who appeal to me are anywhere from 5 to 10 years older than me.
I am not looking for anything casual as casual sex does not appeal to me, I'm truly looking for a boyfriend, but one who can handle that I am married and will stay married, I love my husband more than anything, but there are two sides to every coin and while he completes one side, the other side is left unfulfilled and we are looking to change that. Yes we do have children and if the "friendship" were to progress to the level I am looking for, there would be some interaction with my kids, but never more than as Mom and Dad's friend. I am all about honesty and being up front, I always like to know where I stand with people and they never have to worry about knowing where they stand with me. At times I have a very sarcastic sense of humor and at other times I am just funny. I am shy and reserved until I get really comfortable with people then I just let it all hang out. I like to dance, though I haven't done much of it over the last few years, and go to movies, and I like to try different things. I have been sheltered much of my life but am always open to new experiences. Music, well I pretty much like it all, just needs to have a good hook. I could describe myself physically, but really that doesn't tell anything about what a person really looks like, so any responses must come with a pic and I will return in kind. I am exciting and fun, and like to be on the go, but I can do laid back and mellow too. I cannot abide by the taste or smell of cigarettes so sorry, but no smokers allowed. I take care of myself and can really appreciate a man who takes care of himself too, no metrosexuals though, I wouldn't know what to do with a guy who got manicures and pedicures.
I work and you should too I do not have any day time availability so anyone that needs that is not for me. Unless your marriage is open and your wife is totally cool, I need you to be single with your own place, your own transportation, and your own income. We work hard for what we have and have no desire to give it away. My husband will see any and all emails that he would like to see as I hide nothing from him. We tried this a few years ago and it worked out really well, but the boyfriend had to relocate with a job promotion, and though it was a sad time when he moved on, I'm ready to move on now.
If this type of situation sounds like something that you have been looking for, please reply with your pic and I will answer. I WILL NOT REPLY TO ANYONE WHO ANSWERS WITHOUT A PIC OR WHO IS OVER 50. I look forward to establishing some dialogue and hopefully making a connection that will lead to more!!!!
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